Tuesday, 11 January 2011

On connection, belonging and mutual experience - AND a heartfelt thank you!

Oh mannnn. I got to go to bed bed bed, but I've been meaning to do this blog post for the last week now and something kept jumping, hopping, crashing in the way of it! So, I'll be a bit tired tomorrow and cut this bloggie short.

I wanted to write to and about everyone who responded to my last post about the 'struggles of parenthood' (clickie if you want to read it).

I also want to share with you the painting I created for week 1 and 2 of my up and coming course magical mythical makings (or m3). Let's start with that! :)

Lookit! Here she is! The Goddess of love inspired by the style of the amazing Gustav Klimt - created on a rather large canvas with watersoluble crayons, acrylics, several collage materials, texture paste, graphite and markers! I'm so proud of her!! :)

If you want to see how I created this painting and learn how to create your own, DO come and join us on the course (click HERE to join). It starts on Monday 17th January! Eeek, almost there! :D

close up of goddess - m3

goddess - m3

and look at the yummy texture!

yummy texture - m3


On to thanking you you and YOU, yes YOU tooooo! I was incredibly touched and moved by all the comments, msgs on facebook and emails I received regarding the blog post on the struggles of parenthood.

It really created a deep sense of connection and mutual experience for me. It meant I wasn't just not alone, but I was also not alone in my experience. I know this sounds obvious in many ways, but really, reading about everyone 'having gone through the same thing' or currently going through something similar, just made me feel like part of a whole, and that there was a knowing, an understanding. I felt that I was being seen, understood and heard.

That is such a gift.

And people were commenting on the rawness and the honesty of the post. Well, before I posted on blogspot, I used to post (and still do) on livejournal and have always been very open and honest over there about my ups and downs, so I've never been that 'scared' of it, in fact, I relish in really breaking open and sharing my rawness with people as I often find it breaks others open and a beautiful depth of connection and really seeing each other happens. There is nothing more beautiful than that!! I love it, when we break beyond that wall, the facade and see each other in our [emotional] nakedness and just share what is 'alive' in us. Breathtakingly moving I find that.

So thank you to everyone who sent a msg of support, shared their story, let me know their thoughts, wise tips and guidance and more. It really helped me ground, center and balance and Andy too, he loved reading all the responses!

And will you believe that pretty much straight after that post, things with Dylan too started to change. (Isn't it always like that: action is reaction is change and transformation?).

Andy and I both made a very conscious decision to be much more present with Dylan when we were with him (rather than just sort of 'half there'). And this last weekend Andy was away and it was me and Dylan by ourselves and we had a lovely time in the park and bonding and connecting. Here are some pics:

dylbee boo

dylan in prma

tiny baby, huge world

dylan on the bus

His sleep has also improved so much at the moment, he basically sleeps from 8pm to about 7am! Either straight through or with 1 wake up. Amazing! :)

Anyhoo, I just want to thank everyone again for their comments and reflections - it made me feel so connected and understood.

Must go sleep now!! :)

Big hugs, love,
Tam xoxo


  1. Tam, we all love you! WE want to be here for you as best we can!

    I'm so glad things with Dylan have improved!

    Your paintings is GORGEOUS! WOW! I have to find the money to take your course! I can't wait!!!

    Take care!!

  2. Lovely to read this post :) And I love your painting too. Very excited about Monday!

  3. So glad you're feeling better & stronger. I think the holidays tend to drag us down a little even if we don't realize it.

    I love your Goddess & wish I could join you, but I'll have to wait a bit longer. Some day I'll be elbow deep in your courses & enjoying every moment.


  4. Your son is gorgeous! Brings back memories of when my little 8 year old man was a little guy. They grow up too fast! I really wish I would have recongized that at the time...

  5. Yummy texture and crazy COOL painting :) thank you Tam for everything.
    I am still thinking about taking your course on Monday... I´m not sure if I have time to enjoy it enough at the moment but this is a class I´m NOT going to miss, if not now then a little bit later :)

    SigrĂșn Linda

  6. what a gorgeous painting! so beautiful! and your pictures are wonderful!

  7. OH Tam, I love the Goddess picture. She's BEAUTIFUL!! I wish I could join you in the course. I really want to but my situation at the moment is preventing me from taking the course, but I am there in spirit. Some day hopefully I can take the course. You taught me soooo sooo much in the Art, Heart and Healing.
    Love the pictures of Dylan. He's such a little cutie. So happy to hear he's sleeping through now for you. I know that helps ALOT! HUGS!

  8. You are so right, when we are able to be honest with ourselves it lets others be honest too, and things done in a spirit of love and support are usually positive experiences - You Are a Mum, always will he hun - so you may as well find the pleasures to be had from it...to balance those hard times. My son told me yesterday , he is 17 and struggling with His As level exams right now, mum will you read me a bed time story like you used to so I will sleep well? (hold me Mum make me feel safe) Aw Bless, So I did and He did and this morning he felt ready to face the test...I have to say it is a challenge being the source of another persons sense of security and I am hoping, like his brother he needs me less and less as time goes by, so it becomes a treat for us both not a need he has to meet to have time with Mum. See you Monday YAY I am so looking forward to the unicorn....


  9. A truly beautiful painting - I LOVE IT! Just look at those colours and textures - delightful - magical. I'm enjoying doing your portraits course at the moment and have learnt so much. Thank you for all the time you put into teaching us.

    Regards to parenting - my heart went out to you and Andy regarding your problems. Parenting is never easy and the decisions we make affects the lives of our precious children. I had 3 boys all under 3 years old for a time - can't remember much about the first year at all haha! - but now they are, thankfully, well balanced and happy 20/30 somethings and I have an adorable grandson. With hindsight it is easy to give advice but really only YOU know what you want for your child and all I can say is to give unconditional love always and ALWAYS find time for yourself - as an individual and as a couple. Never feel guilty having time for yourself and make the most of any support of friends or family around you. Dylan is adorable and will love you all the more if you remain sane haha!

    Still breastfeeding? Wonderful, but stop when YOU want to not when Dylan wants to.

    Sending hugs and smiles.
    Lesley x

  10. Wow! Tam your goddess is amazingly beautiful. You should be proud.

    I'm so glad things are a little easier at the moment, especially with Dylan sleeping more. It's amazing how even a little bit more sleep can impove how you cope/feel during the day. I remember with my first child I thought to my self, "if only I could get 4 hours straight". when I did get the four hours it was such a blessing. If I only had 4 now I wouldn't be able to function.
    Big hugs to you, Andy & Dylan xo

  11. Such a lovely post Tam. Much love, Beverley xx

  12. Tam, you are amazing on so many levels. Jessica W. xox

  13. Tam that is the most beautiful painting i've ever seen of yours! I LOVE IT! Literally can't stop looking at it. And although I can't truly share in the parenting ups and downs, I do love to read your blog and am so glad things are improving on that front too. Hugs xx

  14. Oooh! That last picture of Dylan kills me! WHAT a cutie-patutie!!
    AND I am so very excited about your new course - judging by the painting, we are in for a real treat - it is FAB! xoxo

  15. Tam, the latest Klimt inspired artwork is simply divine!I love how you make that style your own, and now my hands are itching to create!Dylan will be a heartbreaker soon and sure enough with his good looks and that sweet smile!

  16. Tam,as a mom of wonderful daughters, whose strong will as children prepared them to be the strong , caring women that they are today,this to shall pass!You are a giver. Givers must replenish their spirit.Your plan to feed your spirit is the right one.


Thank you for connecting with me. I appreciate you! <3


Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...